SWDesertHomes in Tucson, Marana, Oro Valley, Vail & More!: Out With the Old, In With the New

Out With the Old, In With the New

I have been heartlessly cleaning this past month.

Heartlessly, according to Merriam-Webster online, says the Simple Definition of heartless is: very cruel. Taking it a step further, the full definition of heartless says, "spiritless" or "lacking feeling.

Now I looked up "spiritless" as well, and MW says "lacking cheerfulness".

And that brings me full-circle to my gleaning.

Unfortunately, my father-in-law, to which I was very close, unexpectedly passed away in May, and my husband and I have been going through his belongings and closing down the household.  It is amazing what some people keep for their whole lives, and interesting what they do not.

All of this inspired within me a need for MORE order, MORE organization, and LESS, LESS Stuff!  Stuff is not the legacy I wish to leave my kids!!!


Now...going through one's belongings, memories kept for years, keepsakes, books, cards, letters...the good and the bad...well it can be simply wrenching..  I'm definitely lacking cheerfulness at times.  Other moments, I'm cruelly throwing away keepsakes I've had for years, simply because....I DO NOT NEED THEM.

I think about how many times I actually look through my half a bookcase of recipe books.  More often than not, I look things up online.  So...how many books do I need?  Probably just my very favorite ones.

Likewise, scrapbooks from plays I directed 20 years ago, award certificates from past jobs, a folder of news stories regarding a local fire....I'm cruelly throwing them out...or recycling.

Cassette lectures, VHS tapes that I never watch, outdated technology -- it's all going.

The Vietnam Veterans Association is stopping by on Monday for a special load of household items.  I feel good that I'm making progress.  I feel good that my "gleaning" will have me better organized, more apt to follow up leads, write the blog posts I've been meaning to, and just get on with the NEW things ahead of me, instead of saving some of the old things I frankly don't need to keep around anymore.

Instead of the popular commercial, "What's in your Wallet", I'm asking myself, "What's in THAT drawer?"

Out with yesterday's "stuff" and on to more effective organization and openness to what tomorrow brings.  After all, I've got the space!


If I can assist you in your home buying or selling in Marana, Tucson, Oro Valley, or Vail, please don't hesitate to call me!  Email at swdeserthomes@aol.com

Cara Marcelle Mancuso, Long Realty,


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Comment balloon 7 commentsCara Marcelle Mancuso • June 18 2016 10:00PM


Condolences to you, your husband and all your family. ❤️✨💔 It's hard to go through things. Just hard. Prayers to you through this time. Hits home. Try to enjoy your weekend. 

Posted by Lauren Selinsky Broker CRS, "Your Real Estate Broker" #oclauren (California Coastal Estates) almost 3 years ago

I'm sorry to hear about your father-in-law's passing and the need to do the cleaning up of his belongings. When I did the same with my dad's house last year, I came to the same conclusion as you did. I don't want my family to have to go through all my stuff so I've been cleaning things up as well. A lot of what I had was unnecessary.

Hugs to you.

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com) almost 3 years ago

Looking at a lifetime of someone's memories is a difficult job.l..and we have done that as well.  It does make you look seriously at your own things and which are important.

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce (EXP Realty 414-525-0563) almost 3 years ago

So sorry about your family's loss, but good for you in turning it into something positive for you.  I started getting rid of a lot of "stuff" last year and I literally feel as if a weight has been listed off my shoulders.

Posted by Susan Haughton, Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results. (Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545) almost 3 years ago

Good morning Cara. I'm sorry for your loss. Living simpler is an important message we seldom think about but I like your proactive direction.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) almost 3 years ago

Good morning Cara.  Going through the treasures of a loved one can be difficult.  Good to see you are getting a grasp of what is important.

Posted by James Dray, Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results (Fathom Realty AR LLC) almost 3 years ago

A couple years ago, I went through a similar time of purging, after years of being on an acquisition binge.  

Recently, my 93 year old neighbor has been doing something similar.  It was kind of difficult to help her with that, because she was giving away things she had bought a decade ago, and never used.  There was a George Forman grill still in the box.  Ditto for a Nu-Wave oven, and an electric pressure cooker.  So many things were heavy and difficult for her to now handle.  

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) almost 3 years ago